I was at Lake Coeur D’Alene last weekend and it was a perfect summer night. After a balmy 100 degree day, swimming in the lake was the best decision I could have made. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been to CDA, but I’m pretty certain this was my first time going there alone. Not so long ago I would have been super self-concious hanging out at a beach alone, but apparently I’ve matured a little because it was just pure relaxation and comfort.
While I was walking around the edge of the lake during the sunset, I ran into something that struck me as peculiar. I saw three people dressed up nicely standing close to one another in the bushes. It took me a minute of staring to realize that it was a pastor marrying a couple. At first I thought it was one of the most beautiful things I had ever seen. It may seem a little strange, but I’m really not a big fan of millennial weddings. Between wedding Pinterest boards, wedding hashtags, mason jar cups, wedding donuts, burlap, elaborate wedding party gifts, chalkboard signs, succulents, Pachelbel Canon in D Major, the dollar dance, and the 10 different wedding photo shoots for pre-engagement engagement post-engagement pre-wedding wedding post-wedding … and an emotional video of course, I can’t help but get this feeling that a lot of couples are more excited for getting married than they are for being married (my apologies to any of my friends who did any of these things … your weddings were great!). So when I saw this couple in the bushes, I was like YES! THIS IS WHAT ALL WEDDINGS SHOULD BE LIKE! I BET YOU ANYTHING THAT THIS COUPLE IS GOING TO STAY TOGETHER FOREVER!
After my initial thought, however, I started feeling a little sad. The reason I felt sad was that they didn’t have any family members or friends there. I don’t know a whole lot about love, but I feel like it’s a lot bigger than anything that could ever be shared by just a man and a woman. I think love is all about family and community.
Since I was pretty much the only person present during their ceremony, I decided to elect myself as their accidental best man. Even though I was alone at the lake and they were alone at the lake, the truth is that we were there together. We experienced the same incredible sunset and the same moment in time. My time at the lake made me realize that there isn’t a right or wrong way to get married. The cool thing about love is that it transcends ceremonies and rituals.